It seems like nowadays every other black woman has natural hair… It’s like a natural hair movement… or is it more like a natural hair fad? Is natural hair the cool thing to do these days? And how do men really feel about our natural tresses?
I wanted answers so I asked some of my male friends for their opinion. The guys I asked were between 22 and 44 years old; some are single, some are dating and some are married.
One of my male friends said straight up, “I don’t get natural hair. Why are you doing that?”
One of my favorite responses:
“I love natural hair. I believe for black women, having natural hair goes against the Eurocentric belief that straight hair is the standard of beauty. On the other side, I believe the challenge for women with natural hair is understanding their hair.”
Another response that like:
“I find myself attracted to beauty and for me that’s natural hair and curly hair and straight hair. I think at the end of the day a woman’s hair plays an extremely small role in whether she’s attractive or not.
Here are the other responses:
- “It doesn’t matter to me as long as it’s not too short and it’s cute on her. I’ve been really digging the ‘natural’ these days though, it gives me hope that you won’t come home with a lace front. Whether it’s natural or straight I’m going to want to play in it”
- “I like anything but weave. I hate weave with a passion. Weave scares me. I’m a touchy feely kind of guy and I hate touching a woman’s hair and feeling glue, staples, ropes, nails etc. Outside of weave it’s all about how a woman rocks her hairstyle.
- “I actually prefer natural. It lets me know that you enjoy taking care of your hair the natural way and not taking the easy way out.”
- “I prefer straight.” (lol he didn’t even attempt to engage in conversation about it.)
I think the majority of the men felt this way:
“I love y’all all… dated plenty of sistas with natural hair and locks. As long as she got body.”
- “I don’t have a preference provided it’s not abubaka nappy and it fits the person. Generally speaking if you like it, I love it.”
- “I don’t care as long as you’re cute really. I’ll pull natural, curly, weave, dreads and even rub a little baldy.”
- “I don’t have a preference; I simply wish hair wasn’t such a big issue for black females.”
- “I prefer natural hair, straight hair, curly hair, long hair, short hair; as long as she look good, we can rock.”
So out of the 12 guys that I asked the general answer was that men are attracted to a woman who looks good, regardless of her hairstyle. I can dig that. BUT (if I may) the amount of men that approach me now, with my hair in its natural state, is a lot lower. I’m just saying…
Below is the link to a youtube video where the gentleman suggested that women explain why they’re doing the whole natural hair thing because men don’t understand. Hmmm? Food for thought…
For me, my natural hair symbolizes knowledge and growth. I’ve learned so much about myself and I’ve learned so much about my hair, and that knowledge has helped me grow in many different areas in my life. That may seem trivial to some, but it’s the truth. I’ve grown so much in these past 6 months that it’s kind of unreal. It’s not always pretty, it’s not always easy and sometimes I get discouraged but I know that if I stay faithful and focused that in the end, it will all be worth it. Well, I hold on to that hope anyway. I suppose only time will tell.
youtube link: NATURAL HAIR: YO BOYFRIEND DONT LIKE IT??